Nov 09 2012, 12:41 AM
[SIZE=14px]1.) Use pauses: While speaking, pausing at appropriate times will build tension and suspense. This is a very powerful technique which will make you a much more controlling orator. Pauses keep people hanging on, wanting to hear what the next word is going to be and it also shows you are putting more emphasis on your delivery.[/SIZE]
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[SIZE=14px]2.) Speak loudly: If people can’t hear you, they lose interest because then it’s too much effort for them to receive your message. Speaking loud enough so everyone can hear you shows you are in command and are not afraid to be in control.[/SIZE]
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3. Speak slowly: Talking too fast, stuttering and tripping over your words shows that you are either insecure or unsure about what’s coming out of your mouth. Speaking slowly shows you are relaxed and not intimidated at the thought of interacting. This does not mean speak super slowly. Use a rate at which you are speaking truthfully, naturally, how you would want to effectively communicate what is really on your mind. Be articulate.
4.) Vary your pitch and tone: Put emphasis on certain words to show emotion and to liven the experience. Allow your emotions to flow with how you speak to become the force behind your message.
5.) Be entertaining: In order to keep people interested, try and discuss thought-provoking, out of the ordinary subjects things and not about the weather or what they do for a living. Be animated and fun to be around to ensure that everyone is enjoying your company.
6.) Tell stories: Get people interested in you by telling stories about your life; particularly funny/awkward instances or dramatic tales that manipulate emotion. Use metaphorical stories to get your point across about things or when you are trying to teach someone something.
7.) Use big vocabulary: Using big words have a powerful psychological effect on people. It shows them you are an educated person of higher value and taste. with a higher or the same value as them. The type of language you use can tell someone a lot about yourself.
[SIZE=14px]10.) Move slowly: The speed of how you walk, move your hands, and turn your head all send a message. Fast jittery movements show signs of nervousness, while slow movements show you are relaxed and in control. A person of high value is never in a hurry for anyone because they are in control of their time and environment. Be relaxed and allow your unconscious mind to portray those emotions naturally throughout your body.[/SIZE]
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[SIZE=14px]11.) Keep your hands visible: Letting others see your hands shows them you are non-threatening. This is where the open hand “hello” gesture came from. Putting your hands in your pockets shows that you are nervous or disinterested in the interaction. Instead, use your hands to animate and compliment what you are saying while speaking to others. This makes whatever you are saying seem more important.[/SIZE]
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[SIZE=14px]12.) Touch: Touching people in a non-sexual way shows dominance and also builds rapport. It shows people you are friendly and relaxed in their presence. Places such as the shoulders, hands, arms, upper back, and small of the back (women) are key non-sexual spots to get people used to your touch.[/SIZE]
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13.) Firm handshake: A dominant handshake is a must because it is the “first impression” of your physical dominance when interacting with another person. A weak handshake gives off the impression that you are someone of low value and are easily intimidated by others.
14.) Eye contact: While talking to people, make sure you maintain eye contact to keep them interested and do the same when they speak to you. This shows that you actually care for what they have to say and are present in the moment with them. It also shows you are not shy and this will allow others to confide in you.
By following these easy tips, you will notice immediate changes in your day to day interactions. People will begin to respond and perceive you differently. It will take some time and consistent practice to incorporate these tips fully in your daily life but eventually they will become second nature to you. Some of you may notice that you have already been doing them naturally, others my find you have not been doing any of them at all.
Use these simple yet powerful tips to increase your presence, image of yourself, and ability to communicate effectively. Just like anything else in life, the more you practice something, the better you get at it. The more like an alpha you act, the easier it is to become one.
Source: http://elitedaily.com/elite/2012/alpha-b...teristics/
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[SIZE=14px]2.) Speak loudly: If people can’t hear you, they lose interest because then it’s too much effort for them to receive your message. Speaking loud enough so everyone can hear you shows you are in command and are not afraid to be in control.[/SIZE]
[SIZE=14px] [/SIZE]
3. Speak slowly: Talking too fast, stuttering and tripping over your words shows that you are either insecure or unsure about what’s coming out of your mouth. Speaking slowly shows you are relaxed and not intimidated at the thought of interacting. This does not mean speak super slowly. Use a rate at which you are speaking truthfully, naturally, how you would want to effectively communicate what is really on your mind. Be articulate.
4.) Vary your pitch and tone: Put emphasis on certain words to show emotion and to liven the experience. Allow your emotions to flow with how you speak to become the force behind your message.
5.) Be entertaining: In order to keep people interested, try and discuss thought-provoking, out of the ordinary subjects things and not about the weather or what they do for a living. Be animated and fun to be around to ensure that everyone is enjoying your company.
6.) Tell stories: Get people interested in you by telling stories about your life; particularly funny/awkward instances or dramatic tales that manipulate emotion. Use metaphorical stories to get your point across about things or when you are trying to teach someone something.
7.) Use big vocabulary: Using big words have a powerful psychological effect on people. It shows them you are an educated person of higher value and taste. with a higher or the same value as them. The type of language you use can tell someone a lot about yourself.
[SIZE=14px]10.) Move slowly: The speed of how you walk, move your hands, and turn your head all send a message. Fast jittery movements show signs of nervousness, while slow movements show you are relaxed and in control. A person of high value is never in a hurry for anyone because they are in control of their time and environment. Be relaxed and allow your unconscious mind to portray those emotions naturally throughout your body.[/SIZE]
[SIZE=14px] [/SIZE]
[SIZE=14px]11.) Keep your hands visible: Letting others see your hands shows them you are non-threatening. This is where the open hand “hello” gesture came from. Putting your hands in your pockets shows that you are nervous or disinterested in the interaction. Instead, use your hands to animate and compliment what you are saying while speaking to others. This makes whatever you are saying seem more important.[/SIZE]
[SIZE=14px] [/SIZE]
[SIZE=14px]12.) Touch: Touching people in a non-sexual way shows dominance and also builds rapport. It shows people you are friendly and relaxed in their presence. Places such as the shoulders, hands, arms, upper back, and small of the back (women) are key non-sexual spots to get people used to your touch.[/SIZE]
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13.) Firm handshake: A dominant handshake is a must because it is the “first impression” of your physical dominance when interacting with another person. A weak handshake gives off the impression that you are someone of low value and are easily intimidated by others.
14.) Eye contact: While talking to people, make sure you maintain eye contact to keep them interested and do the same when they speak to you. This shows that you actually care for what they have to say and are present in the moment with them. It also shows you are not shy and this will allow others to confide in you.
By following these easy tips, you will notice immediate changes in your day to day interactions. People will begin to respond and perceive you differently. It will take some time and consistent practice to incorporate these tips fully in your daily life but eventually they will become second nature to you. Some of you may notice that you have already been doing them naturally, others my find you have not been doing any of them at all.
Use these simple yet powerful tips to increase your presence, image of yourself, and ability to communicate effectively. Just like anything else in life, the more you practice something, the better you get at it. The more like an alpha you act, the easier it is to become one.
Source: http://elitedaily.com/elite/2012/alpha-b...teristics/